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The Important Relationship Lesson in Taylor Swift’s New Song, ME!

Happy Friday, all!

For those who don’t know, Taylor Swift released a new single and accompanying video at midnight, and the song is super fun!

While a lot of fans are analyzing every second of the video, looking for the countless Easter eggs Taylor confirmed are indeed in there, one of the most important things to take away from the song isn’t hidden at all.

Both the song and the video portray a couple getting into a fight and then resolving it together; the song and video are also both super bubbly, colorful, and playful.

The lyrics allude to shortcomings on each side (for example, Taylor sings, “I know I never think before I jump…I know that I went psycho on the phone…and trouble’s gonna follow where I go”) but also the individuality of each half of the couple.

The chorus proudly boasts “I’m the only one of me, baby that’s the fun of me…You’re the only one of you, baby that’s the fun of you” and I think that is the overarching message of the song.

In any relationship, the most important thing is that both people are fully accepted for, and stay true to, who they are as individuals.

I believe that relationships and love should be about celebrating the other person, because it’s everything they are that leads us to fall in love with them.

I think the song speaks to this, along with the reminder that even when we are mad at our lover, they are still the wonderful person that we admire and want to spend our time with.

The bridge of the song includes a popular saying about how there’s no I in team, but the word me technically is in the word team.

I think this ties back to something Taylor wrote in her 30 Lessons article for Elle magazine about how important it is to remember that you and your significant other are in this together.

Even when you’re fighting, or annoyed with them, or hurt by them, never forget that you are both on the same team.

I believe that one key to making a relationship work is knowing how to handle conflict, because there won’t ever be a relationship where no conflict exists.

The song ME! gives us some beautiful advice on how to handle conflict the right way with our loved ones – remember that it is our job to love them, and that even though parts of them are imperfect, it’s the imperfections that make up who they are, and that allow them to love us in the way that only they can.

I think it’s a lovely song and lovely message, and I’m really not just saying that because I’m a Taylor Swift fan!

What are your thoughts on the song/video? Or on resolving conflict in relationships in general?

I think there are many different ways to handle things and to be successful in relationships, and I’m always happy to hear guidance from others.

If you have something to share, leave it in the comments below!

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Who I Want to Have Dinner With, Alive or Dead

Three people you’d invite to dinner

Hey friends,

In today’s post I’m talking about my ideal dinner party guests.

These are three people who I’d most love to have dinner with, if given the chance.

Taylor Swift

If you haven’t caught onto this already, I love Taylor!

She is one of my all-time favorite writers and I think she’s both very smart and talented.

I would love to just have a normal conversation with her and pick her brain on the common interests we share, such as writing and finding true love.

My father-in-law

My husband’s dad passed away before I got the chance to meet him, and I’ve always wondered what it would be like to just sit and talk with him.

Based on the stories I’ve heard about him and how loved he was by those who knew him, I know he was a sharp, kind, and all-around wonderful person.

He will always be on the top of my list as far as people I wish I’d met in my lifetime.

Zelda Fitzgerald

It’s hard to decide who gets this third spot, but I need to give it to Zelda.

I am so fascinated by the lives and relationship of the Fitzgeralds, and though I prefer Scott’s writing out of the two, I think I would rather meet his wife.

She seems to have been such a headstrong and interesting woman, even if the face of everything she dealt with.

I’d love to hear their stories from her point of view, and see what she was really like in person.

This post is about who I’d like to have dinner with, dead or alive, but I really just chose the three people I want to spend time with the most.

All three of the people I mentioned above are people I admire and who I feel could teach me a lot about life and love.

Even if I will never get the chance to know these people, I’m lucky enough to have their words and the legacies they left/will leave behind to inform and inspire me.

Thanks for reading this post. I’m excited for tomorrow’s, since it will mark the halfway point of my April blogging challenge!

See you then. 😊♥️

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10 Random Songs from my Music Library

Hey everyone,

It’s day 10 of my April blogging challenge, so I’m going to share 10 random songs from my music library!

I like a lot of different kinds of music, and most of the songs on my phone are from when I was in high school/college, so hopefully a good variety is represented here.

I’m going to put my music on shuffle, write out the first 10 songs that play, and a little bit of background on the song (or band), including a memory that it ties back to for me.

Here we go; I’m writing this in real time so I’ll share whatever comes to mind as the songs play.

I Have You to Thank – Gavin DeGraw

I listened to a lot of Gavin in college, so this song takes me right back.

The lyrics to this song are really sweet, and I’m very much one of those people who judges a song by its lyrics (my husband, for example, cares mostly about the melody and doesn’t even know the words to many of his favorite songs, which blows my mind).

I’ve also always been a huge fan of the show One Tree Hill, so anything by Gavin reminds me of that show’s theme song and the years I spent hearing it introducing (almost) every episode.

2nd Sucks – A Day to Remember

I LOVE this song. I’m a big fan of screamo, and this song hits hard right from the beginning.

The lyrics to this one are definitely more aggressive, but they’re also smart and I love listening to this song when I’m working out or even if I’m just in a bad mood and need to let off some steam.

A favorite lyrics from this one is: “Can’t waste my time on hateful people like you / So keep wishing you were me and I’ll keep making you have to.

You Belong with Me – Taylor Swift

I’ve probably said it 20 times by now in various posts, but Taylor Swift is one of my favorite artists ever.

I’m one of those annoying people who is absolutely obsessed with her and everything she does, and while most of my favorite songs by her are the lesser-known ones, I can’t deny the catchiness of this classic.

Every time I hear this song I just want to dance around to it, as I have so many times before.

One More Won’t Hurt – Houston Calls

This song brings me right back to senior year of high school, when I used to listen to it all the time.

I don’t get as excited by it anymore, probably because I’ve heard it hundreds of times by now, but I had a great time seeing and meeting Houston Calls back when I was 17, so this song still brings back positive memories for me.

I’m Not Okay – My Chemical Romance

I told you a lot of my songs were older. This is a classic late 2000’s song and, again, is a pleasant reminder of high school days.

I remember listening to this entire album while visiting my cousin in Boston years ago, so hearing this song also reminds me of Massachusetts and my family.

The Story Left Untold – Every Avenue

This song reminds me of dating in my early 20’s and all of the drama that came with it.

The song doesn’t evoke memories of any specific person, but more of the overall apathetic attitude that guys at that age tend to have, and the less-than-desirable way that they tend to treat girls at that time. (Or at least, they did when I was that age.)

Today I am happily married and in love, but I spent my fair share of time chasing after guys who weren’t worth my time, who liked to play games, or who didn’t know what they wanted.

I remember walking around my college campus singing this song with one of my friends, wondering when I would find the right person for me.

I had to wait a few years to actually find him, but he ended up being well worth the wait. 😉

Up All Night – Blink 182

Blink is another all-time favorite for me. I’ve loved this band since I was 12 years old and even though they aren’t together anymore (sorry Matt Skiba, but Blink just isn’t Blink anymore without Tom), I’ll always love them and their music.

Up All Night is from the last full album Mark, Tom, and Travis made together and, like most of the other songs on this album, it’s great.

This song reminds me of the excitement I felt at getting new music from my favorite band, who had broken up for years and then gotten back together to make this album, and it makes me feel a little sad to know that there probably won’t be any more where it came from.

In all fairness, I do like the new album that Mark, Travis, and Matt put out, but seeing them living singing old songs without Tom’s voice just wasn’t the same for me, and their new music is missing part of that trademarked sound that the real Blink 182 always had.

Break Myself – Something Corporate

This was the first Something Corporate song that I remember hearing, and it’s definitely part of what made me fall in love with the band.

I was probably at the end of middle school when I first heard this one, so it reminds me of those, much simpler, times.

I also had the great pleasure of meeting Something Corporate front-man Andrew McMahon just 2 months ago, so any Something Corporate, Jack’s Mannequin, or Andrew McMahon in the Wilderness (the three bands he’s headed up over the years) automatically makes me smile and remember that amazing meet and greet back in February.

For those who aren’t familiar with Andrew, he’s an amazing songwriter and a 2x leukemia survivor. He started the Dear Jack foundation and does amazing things to help young people whoa re fighting for or recovering from cancer.

I have always idolized Andrew as a writer, and getting to tell him how much his words meant to me this year was something I’d been dreaming about for a long time.

I’m so glad I got to meet him in person and will probably always remember that moment when I hear any of his songs.

Getting Into You – Relient K

Relient K has a lot of really great songs that are subtly religious.

As a Catholic, I really enjoy the messages behind their songs and how honest they are about every part of being a believer.

This sounds like a love song when you first listen to it, but then when you look a little closer at the lyrics you can see that it’s not about a romantic relationship, but about one with God.

One of my favorite lines from the song is: “You say, ‘I love you and that’s what you are getting yourself into’…I’m going to love you with my life.”

Hands on You – Florida Georgia Line

A few years ago I went on a country music concert cruise; it’s basically a cruise you can go on with a bunch of different country music acts, and it is awesome.

Throughout the cruise there were concerts on the ship happening all day and night; Florida George Line were headlining, so they did three separate performances, including an intimate acoustic set.

I’m a huge fan of this duo, so getting to see them play so many times, and in such close proximity, was a lot of fun.

I still remember them playing this song, among many others, while one of my best friends and I watched from the top deck of the ship.

The cruise was basically a week-long music festival, and every person who attended got to meet FGL, which was kind of the icing on top of the cake for me.

Those are my 10 songs! I think we got a good variety of music in there, and a nice range of sentimental stories as well.

I’ve got a challenge for you: Put your music on shuffle right now and comment below with the first song that comes on.

What does the song mean to you, or what does it bring you back to when you hear it?

I’m always amazed by how much music is woven into my memories and the different parts of my life.

Music and lyrics have always meant a lot to me, and there are certain songs that just make me feel comforted, or motivated, or remind me of really hard times that I’ve gotten through.

It’s fun putting on old songs and seeing what they stir up in you, and I really enjoyed this post.

I’ll be back tomorrow with my day 11 post! 🙂 ❤